Guest Post: Black History is Me

I have had the honor of meeting many brilliant minds and true friends along the way. Today’s guest post was written by my dear friend, Danielle Ivey. We attended graduate school together and she is a smart, successful, strong and beautiful woman and I am proud to share her work with you. Be sure to follower her on Twitter and Instagram: MissDeeva411. Enjoy!


Black History is Me

Countless women have gone before me.
Paving the path brick by brick.
Struggle. Tears. Hope. Triumph.

Theirs is the reflection I see staring back at me as I gaze into my own big brown eyes.

The fearlessness of Harriet Tubman as she leads her brothers and sisters to freedom.
The business prowess of Madame C.J. Walker, the first Black female millionaire.
An advocate like Dorothy Height, fighting for women’s rights and racial equality.

Brick by brick.
Art. Science. Education. Technology.

An unrelenting spirit like that of Shirley Chisholm, the first Black congresswoman.
An adventurous heart like that of Bessie Coleman as she made her dreams soar.
The style and class of Michelle Obama as she serves like no other Black woman has before.

Theirs is the reflection I see.
I do not stand alone because we stand together as one.
Character. Strength. Courage. Grace.

I am all of them and they are all of we.
We who aspire to greatness and stand in the face of adversity.
We who let the waters of hatred and injustice roll off our strong shoulders.
We who carry the torch, tear down walls, and light the path to a better tomorrow.

Theirs is the reflection I see.
Powerful. Tenacious. Intelligent. Creative.

I am Black History and Black History is me.

Danielle Ivey
February 2016


Peace and Love,



All you need is love . . . Mike Love

Happy Sunday, wise readers! My dad recently introduced me to a reggae artist named Mike Love. He is from Hawaii and he is wicked talented. His music speaks to me on a personal level, so I thought I would share “Permanent Holiday” with you. Reggae is linked with the hippie culture (even if the Rastafarians wish it wasn’t). This got me thinking about my own philosophies. On some level the hippie philosophy speaks to my core beliefs about work, life, love, politics, and money.

So, let’s talk a little about work. I am extremely fortunate to have the ability to work for myself. But this is not an option for a lot of people. The reason I like Mike Love’s music so much is because he encourages us to get back to who we really are. No matter your job or position, we are all people. And lucky for us penny pinchers and student-loan-strapped millennials, we really need very little to live fulfilling and happy lives.

Unfortunately, American society tells us otherwise. We are incessantly bombarded with marketing and advertising. We live in a society that tells us that our individual success can be a tangible and measurable thing—how much stuff do you have; how much money do you make; what kind of car do you drive; how big is your house? I very much doubt that anyone ever laid on their death bed and said, “I wish I had bought that [new car, bigger house, more shoes].”

The reason for this phenomenon is that material possessions can never satiate the human spirit. We aren’t built to live such a materialistic life. We thrive on companionship, new experiences, community and purpose. Most of us are missing one or more of these things in our lives and if you have not guessed by now, missing any of these things does not make us better citizens of the world. Rather, this loss of human nature keeps us from gaining valuable perspective, developing empathy, and it handicaps our ability to move past our own prejudices and presumptions.

We work tirelessly in jobs that we hate. We fear our bosses’ irrational mood swings and the dreaded, “I hope you don’t have any plans this weekend” speech. It always seems like their lack of planning and managing their time and projects perpetually disrupts YOUR life. And cleaning up the mess your boss leaves behind at the end of each week on your supposed “days off” is not a foreign concept to you. But, you deserve better. We all do.

My philosophy on work has always been, “Work to live, don’t live to work.” Mike Love sums it up perfectly when he says:

10,000 years of captivity, we must eventually open up our eyes and see
They’re manipulating we. With so much uncertainty and so many mysteries,
Why are so few questioning the unnatural state of things.
It’s a nightmare, we’re living in a nightmare, everyone’s living so scared
They’re virtually unaware of this fear that rules their lives, occupies, consumes their minds
This fear of bankruptcy, financial impotency. It’s money, money , money.
It’s all this digital currency. It’s all this monopoly money that keeps us from ever being free.
And so it seems we’ll be in this prison for life
Cause If we keep buying then they’ll keep selling the lies
And so it’s up to I & I
I won’t be manipulated, mind-controlled and inundated,
I will seek the revelation, make my life a celebration.
I’m gonna be the change I’m seeking, manifest the words I’m speaking
I refuse to be imprisoned I will make my own decisions

For all of the music aficionados, you will be fascinated by how talented he is. For all the over-stressed workaholics who just need a break, take ten minutes to relax and listen to a beautiful song. You deserve it. And next time you feel stressed, feel free to repeat this life mantra to yourself (courtesy of my wonderful dad), “Work like no one is watching, dance like it’s going to hurt, and make love like you need the money.”

Peace and love.

Idiocy on the Internet–Country Grammar

One of my pet peeves is that I am a stickler for grammar and spelling. Thus, if I ever have a typo please point it out to me (preferably in a nice way). One of my vices is reading comments on what I consider to be controversial topics. Religious posts by prominent public figures never disappoint.

In these posts I will always answer the same question: What did I learn? The rest should speak for itself.


Greg Abbott status

abbott comment 1

Abbott comment 2

Abbott grammar exchange

You can see the entire thread here.

What did I learn?

1. I still loathe bullies.

James is probably a Christian and judging by his spelling, James was likely “educated” in the Texas public school system. I believe that a person’s political or religious beliefs, or personal choices are never an acceptable excuse to personally attack someone who disagrees with you. This is especially true if you are attacking someone in response to a picture of Biblical scripture. Whatever happened to “Love thy neighbor?” Defend your views to the death, but do it with eloquence and ample citations to reputable sources.

2. I should never assume.

One thing I did not account for was that James does not have a question mark on his keyboard, smart phone or iPad. If that is the case, you keep doing you, James. But if this is not the case I would love to answer your question. Your grammar is horrible.

Peace and love.

Who am I and why should you care?

Who am I?

I am just one of thousands of liberal, educated, student-debt burdened women living in the United States. I am a solo attorney practicing Estate Planning law in Texas.

I am married to a financial analyst, who also has student debt, and we have two cats (Echo and Calypso) and a dog (Hera). I was born and raised in Lubbock, Texas. I played college soccer at Texas Tech and Berry College. I graduated from Berry College with a degree in Sport Psychology. I have an MBA from Texas Tech University and I received my law degree from Florida International University where I graduated cum laude.

Why should you care?

Because this is the real deal. I am going to put myself out there for the world and share details of my personal struggles whether they be economic, professional, interpersonal or emotional. I am not a public or political figure. I am just someone with something to say and I would be honored if you would listen.


I am a liberal–not necessarily a democrat–but these posts will inevitably be biased. I welcome well-reasoned discussions and comments and reliable source citation. I will not, however, tolerate any bullying of any kind and all users making personal attacks on this blog will be removed.

Nothing contained in this website should be considered legal advice.